Rachelle Smith 4/29/25 Rachelle Smith 4/29/25

How To Destroy an Airman in 60 Days

Air Force veteran Lakeydra Houston joined the Air Force to escape trauma and reclaim her life—but just 60 days after arriving at her first duty station, a trusted leader shattered her newfound self-esteem and confidence. In this raw survivor story, Lakeydra shares how military sexual trauma (MST), institutional betrayal, and a culture of silence forced her into a destructive trauma cycle. If you’ve ever wondered how fast the military can break someone, this episode is your answer.

She was starting to believe in herself again.
Then she encountered the first sergeant, the enforced silence, the laughter—
and everything she’d rebuilt began to fell apart.
Piece by piece. Trauma by trauma.

*She rebuilt herself in basic training. Her first duty station shattered her again.*

The Brutal Reality

Meet Lakeydra Houston, an Air Force veteran who joined the military seeking purpose after surviving childhood trauma. In this episode, she shares how basic training offered her confidence, but the career that followed delivered betrayal. From harassment and sexual assault by a predatory leader to numbing the pain through alcohol and enduring domestic violence, Lakeydra’s story is both harrowing and heartbreakingly familiar for many women in uniform.

Lakeydra describes her path into the military, which is a path many of us have walked. After struggling in college and coping with past trauma through volleyball, she decided to join the Air Force for a fresh start. Despite initial reluctance and the shock of September 11th, she found herself inspired by the recruiter’s promise of becoming a doctor or physical therapist—only to later discover she’d unknowingly signed an open general contract. Basic training was a culture shock, but it also gave her a sense of pride and purpose once she found her footing. Her transformation into a confident airman marked the first time she truly felt accomplished—until her assignment to Security Forces reintroduced the very violence she’d tried to escape.

The Punchline: Assaults, Silence, and Systemic Betrayal

She was reporting in, doing exactly what every new Airman does when they reach their first assignment. Lakeydra opens up about her horrifying encounter with a first sergeant who groped her suggesting she needed a “harmless” fix on her uniform. When she fled his office, a fellow airman warned her not to report him—because she had, and was being discharged for it. What’s worse: the men in Lakeydra’s unit already knew he had a reputation. They laughed about it. Lakeydra was silenced, shamed, and eventually pushed toward alcoholism as a way to cope. Surrounded by a toxic drinking culture and carrying a weapon every day, she was emotionally unraveling—and no one noticed. No one intervened.

Entering The Loop: Loss, Pregnancy, and Deployment

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The spiral continued. Lakeydra entered into a volatile relationship, became pregnant, and was deployed just six weeks after giving birth. She wasn’t physically or emotionally ready. While serving in Dubai, the violence and harassment continued—this time involving officers and friends too scared or ashamed to report what happened. Eventually access to alcohol was cut off, but not before the damage was done to numerous people. When Lakeydra got a call that her husband had been shot, she didn’t want to return home.

Somehow, being overseas felt safer than being with the man she didn’t trust.

Above All Else

Lakeydra’s story quickly exposes how a toxic command climate and male-dominated culture enabled repeat offenders to thrive while silencing survivors. For many, systemic betrayal compounds personal trauma.

If you’re still wondering if your pain “counts” or if you’re the only one—this episode proves otherwise. Lakeydra hopes her courage helps other survivors understand they’re not alone, and that they can get out of the loop that they’re stuck in with support and help from advocates, trustworthy leadership, and mental health treatment and services.

“Going to the military was my way to start over and feel like I had a purpose in life.”
- Lakeydra

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Episode Trigger Warning Index

This episode contains references to the following topics. Please use this guide to skip if needed:

1:36 Mention of CSA, drug use for coping
3:30 - 4:56 Discussion of September 11th
7:36 Mentions of loss of sister
9:07 Mentions of loss of parent from gun violence
09:49 - 10:59 Discussion of harassment/ SA, at tech school as a woman in male-dominated space
11:26 - 22:39 Detailed discussion of SA’s, childhood trauma, abuse of power, predatory leadership, male peers making light of and committing SA, trauma responses to SA, self-blame, alcohol abuse, domestic violence, pregnancy, lost lives due to lack of mental health resources, witnessing a friend take their life, SI, deployment soon after giving birth, family members that were veterans of the Vietnam War and their mental health and coping with alcohol
23:02 - 29:11 SA’s on deployment due to alcohol and abuse of power, feeling unable to report due to rank structure, feeling powerless to protect friends, domestic violence, gun violence, being stuck in a trauma cycle, lies and betrayal by spouse, alcohol abuse, financial abuse

Takeaways from Part 1

Lakeydra joined the Air Force to start over after trauma that occurred in childhood..
Basic training was a significant challenge for her, but ultimately led to a newfound sense of accomplishment and confidence in herself..
She faced harassment and assault during her service immediately and was warned to not speak up by another victim, while her male peers laughed about the perpetrator and his reputation for being “nasty”.
Coping with alcohol, and hiding in partying with everyone else became a way to numb her pain.
Mental health was not openly discussed in the military when she served.
Deployment and alcohol’s availability brought new gender-based challenges and experiences.
Support from leadership made a difference in her journey.
Seeking help and connecting with others is instrumental in traumatic situations.
Lakeydra's story emphasizes the need for mental health awareness in the military.

Reflection Journal Prompt

Have you ever felt like you were caught in a trauma loop or cycle?

Spend a few minutes after listening to reflect or journal. What did you feel during this episode? What are you still thinking about? What systems need to change — and what part could you play in that change?

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Need Support?

Although this podcast is a great resource, it does not and should not replace care from a medical professional. If you’re in crisis or need someone to talk to:
Call the Veterans Crisis Line — 988, then press 1
Or go to the nearest emergency room.

You are not alone. We believe you. You matter.

The final part in Lakeydra’s two part series goes live Tuesday May 7, 2025.

Rachelle Smith 4/8/24 Rachelle Smith 4/8/24

Finding Her Voice and Healing: A Journey of Courage

From enlisting in the army to confronting the shadows of military sexual trauma (MST) and domestic violence, Jeannette’s story is one of profound courage and healing. As we honor Sexual Assault Awareness Month, Jeanette reminds us of the importance of listening, believing, and supporting survivors. Through her book "Battle Scars," she empowers others to find strength in vulnerability. Her call for societal change echoes loudly, urging us to create safe spaces for survivors to come forward. In a culture often marked by adversity, her guidance for young women entering the military underscores the importance of self-care and vigilance.

In a environment veiled by silence, where the scars of trauma are worn like armor, Jeanette Garcia emerges as a testament to resilience, sharing her profound military journey with candid honesty. Jeanette's story is not just about enduring; it's about finding healing and empowering others to do the same.

The Call to Service and Shadows of Trauma

A sense of duty and a need for change was recognized as a call to serve her country that led her to enlist in the army. Through basic training and the challenges of deployment to Afghanistan, she forged unbreakable bonds with fellow soldiers and discovered depths of strength she never knew she possessed.

Yet, amidst the traumas encountered during her deployment, Jeanette confronted a darker reality: the specters of military sexual trauma (MST) and domestic violence. These insidious foes left wounds that ran deeper than any battlefield scar, testing her resolve and shaking the very foundations of her being.

Jeanette found solace in her faith and the unwavering support of her son and her loyal companion, her dog. Through their love, she discovered the power to heal and the courage to confront her demons. Jeanette's journey of personal growth and redemption didn't end with her own healing; it became a beacon of hope for others navigating similar trials.

Healing and Empowerment Through Storytelling

jeanette's healing journey found expression in the pages of her book, "Battle Scars." Through raw honesty and unflinching vulnerability, she bared her soul to the world, transforming her pain into a narrative of empowerment. In sharing her story, she not only found catharsis but also ignited a spark of awareness, shedding light on the pervasive issue of abuse within the military.

As Jeanette reflects on the ongoing cases of abuse within the military, she issues a clarion call for societal change and unwavering support for survivors. She advocates for the creation of safe spaces where survivors can come forward without fear of judgment, emphasizing the importance of fostering a culture of empathy and understanding.

Guidance for the Next Generation

For young women embarking on their own military journeys, Jeanette offers sage advice: prioritize self-care, watch for warning signs in relationships, and lean on the bonds forged with fellow service members. She underscores the importance of vigilance in a culture often marred by excessive alcohol consumption, urging individuals to protect themselves and their well-being.

Jeanette Garcia's journey is a testament to the indomitable human spirit, a stirring saga of resilience and redemption in the face of unimaginable adversity. Through her unwavering courage and unyielding determination, she has not only found healing for herself but has also become a guiding light for others traversing the shadowed valleys of trauma. As we heed her call to action, may we find solace in the knowledge that even amidst the darkest of nights, the dawn of hope shines bright for those who dare to embrace it.

For more insights into Jeanette's journey and her ongoing projects, visit her website at WeSurvivedTrauma.com and explore her book, "Battle Scars," available on Amazon and her website.

April marks Sexual Assault Awareness Month, and we at Silenced Voices | Stories of MST are committed to honoring it with each of our interviews. As we delve into Jeanette's narrative, we acknowledge the sensitive nature of the content presented. The content presented in this interview may contain sensitive material that could potentially trigger viewers. Silenced Voices | Stories of MST is committed to supporting survivors of all forms of sexual violence and discrimination. Our mission, encapsulated in our motto "Listen. Believe. Support.", guides our platform's values and actions. It's important to note that the views expressed by our guests do not necessarily reflect the beliefs or values of Silenced Voices. While we provide a platform for survivors to share their stories, we do not endorse or condone any opinions or statements made by our guests.

We strive to create a safe and inclusive space for survivors to speak out and be heard. We encourage our listeners to engage critically with the content presented and to prioritize their own well-being while listening.

Rachelle Smith 3/29/24 Rachelle Smith 3/29/24

Why One Assault is Still Too Many

Sexual Assault Awareness Month (SAAM) is a critical time for shedding light on the pervasive issue of military sexual trauma (MST) and its impact on service members. As we commemorate SAAM, it's essential to recognize the unique challenges faced by survivors of MST within the military community.Despite efforts to address this issue, the prevalence of MST underscores the urgent need for increased awareness, prevention, and support for survivors.

In honor of SAAM, we're proud to announce the release of a new free e-book offering valuable insights and resources for MST survivors. Additionally, our groundbreaking podcast series, Silenced Voices | Stories of MST, premieres on April 2nd, featuring powerful stories of survival and resilience.

April marks the beginning of Sexual Assault Awareness Month (SAAM), a time dedicated to raising awareness about sexual violence and its impact on individuals and communities. In recognition of this significant month, it is essential to shed light on the prevalence of military sexual trauma (MST) and its profound implications for survivors.

Understanding Military Sexual Trauma (MST): A Unique Challenge

Military Sexual Trauma (MST) is a pervasive issue that affects individuals serving in the military and their surrounding communities, regardless of gender, age, rank, or race. It encompasses a range of sexual violations, including sexual harassment, assault, and rape, perpetrated by fellow service members or superiors, and it can also happen to dependents. The prevalence of MST continuing rise, even after many publicized events after high-profile deaths and an unprecedented change to the UCMJ highlights the urgent need for increased awareness, prevention, and support for survivors within the military community.

As we observe Sexual Assault Awareness Month, it is crucial to recognize the unique challenges faced by survivors of MST. The hierarchical structure and male-dominated culture of the military can exacerbate feelings of powerlessness and isolation for survivors, making it difficult for them to come forward and seek help. Additionally, the stigma surrounding mental health and sexual assault within the military can further deter survivors from speaking out and accessing support services, especially if the trauma happens to a male.

In light of these challenges, raising awareness about MST is paramount in fostering a culture of accountability, support, and prevention within the military. By amplifying the voices of survivors, advocating for policy changes, and promoting education and training on sexual violence prevention, we can work towards creating safer and more inclusive environments for all service members. Here at Silenced Voices, we advocate for a cultural change in our military, so that those in need can get the help they need without fear of ridicule, being ostracized, or even further harmed.

Commemorating Sexual Assault Awareness Month: Free E-book Release

To commemorate Sexual Assault Awareness Month and honor the resilience of MST survivors, we are pleased to announce the release of a new free e-book, which is one of a three part series. This e-book offers valuable insights, resources, and strategies for survivors navigating the complexities of MST and seeking healing and empowerment. Not only is this e-book a resource for those unfamiliar with MST and would like to learn more, it also showcases strength and courage of survivors trying to heal while underscoring the importance of supporting and advocating for their rights.

**The Symbolism of the Teal Ribbon: Reflecting the Year-Round Struggle**

The teal ribbon has become a symbol of awareness and support for survivors of sexual assault. It serves as a reminder that sexual assault remains a problem year-round until it is eradicated.

That is why Silenced Voices | Stories of MST uses teal in its logo and most of its products—to reflect the ongoing struggle and to stand in solidarity with survivors. It is also a nod to Rosie the Riveter, the women that stepped up to work in factories and more during WW2, as part of their patriotic duty. We could think of nothing more patriotic than advocating the safety and mental health of our service members and their communities.

Announcing Silenced Voices | Stories of MST: Premiering April 2nd

Again, we are excited to announce the premiere of Silenced Voices | Stories of MST’s second season on April 2, 2024. We are introducing video podcasts to help expand awareness and bring in more support. Please subscribe to our YouTube channel to see each episode and also learn about recent headlines concerning Military Sexual Trauma. Our first guest, UN Ambassador Eileen Dong, will share her powerful story of survival and resilience, offering inspiration, hope, and more resources to survivors worldwide.

The Symbolism of the Teal Ribbon: Reflecting the Year-Round Struggle

Next week, as we begin the month of awareness and advocacy during Sexual Assault Awareness Month, stand in solidarity with survivors of MST and reaffirm our commitment to creating a military and a world free from sexual violence. Together, we can break the silence, challenge the stigma, and build a future where all individuals are treated with dignity, respect, and equality.

Listen. Believe. Support.