Broken Systems, Broken Hearts: Lakeydra’s Fight for Her Life

Lakeydra found herself trapped in a trauma cycle of alcohol and MST in a new duty station. Her breaking point came when faced with an unexpected and tragic loss that set her up for the fight for her life.

Lakeydra’s story exposes betrayal, grief, and her inextinguishable inner-light that propelled her toward healing and advocacy.

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“It was back to back.”

In this gripping episode of The Silenced Voices of MST, Air Force veteran Lakeydra continues sharing her deeply personal journey of survival, betrayal, profound grief, and transformation. Her story spans nearly drowning in military culture steeped in alcohol and silence, the trauma of military sexual assault (MST), and the unbearable loss of her sister. With unflinching honesty, Lakeydra recounts how these intertwined traumas nearly cost her everything—but also sparked her fight to reclaim her voice and help others do the same. This is a story of standing up after being held down by institutional neglect.

Lakeydra describes her next assignment in South Korea, a period marked by overwhelming peer pressure. The heavy drinking culture, normalized toxic behaviors, and relentless push to conform left her vulnerable and isolated. She was betrayed by her wingman—a moment that shattered her trust and marked the continuation of her experiences of MST. While trying to deal with feeling completely numb, Lakeydra pulls back the curtain on human trafficking within the military, detailing how senior leadership facilitated exploitation and turned a blind eye to widespread abuse. Seeing that she could do nothing to help the exploited women, Lakeydra withdrew further into herself. Her grief deepened with the sudden, devastating loss of her sister—a moment that left her in a spiral of depression, isolation, and self-harm. Facing both external betrayal and internal collapse, Lakeydra reached her breaking point, confronting a mental health crisis that felt insurmountable.

Toxic Cultural Shifts in New Environments

Lakeydra paints a vivid picture of arriving in South Korea, unprepared for the cultural and environmental changes that would redefine her military experience. She unpacks how the pervasive alcohol culture created an unsafe and high-pressure atmosphere, where refusal to participate meant ostracization and ridicule. The deep impact of toxic environments on service members' mental health and well-being is something that wasn’t discussed because it’s perceived as weakness and “not belonging”.

The Cycle of Trauma and Systemic Betrayal Continues

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Lakeydra reveals the full extent of her MST experience, starting with the betrayal by someone she thought she could trust, then understanding how the military’s own structures failed her at every turn. She shares difficult details about the pattern of abuse, the denial of justice, and her growing awareness of a hidden world of trafficking enabled by those in power. 

What’s not widely known is these systemic failures and the dark undercurrents are still at play within our military.

Reaching Her Breaking Point

Lakeydra shares a defining moment in her life. Her heartbreaking account of losing her sister—a loss that compounded her trauma and left her feeling more isolated than ever. Her sister was present at Lakeydra’s basic training graduation, as mentioned in the previous episode. That was one of the last times she was full of happiness and pride in her abilities. She opens up about battling severe depression, experiencing harassment when she was at her most vulnerable, and making a serious attempt on her life. This is a searing look at the hidden toll these layered traumas take, not just in the moment, but for years after, and sadly, many do not get the chance to share their stories because of it.

Against all odds, Lakeydra found lifelines in community and advocacy. She describes the pivotal moment when an unfamiliar Master Sergeant came forward to support her, offering strength and understanding she had long craved. He helped her find help, ultimately saving her life. This surge of support reignited her will to fight—not just for herself, but for other survivors. Her commitment to building safe, empowering spaces for fellow survivors who are struggling to find hope has become the core of her mission.

“You have to remember your ‘why’.”
- Lakeydra

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Lakeydra’s experience is a rallying call to action. Her story exposes institutional betrayal, the hidden crisis of trafficking, and the devastating effects of unaddressed complex traumas. But take this to heart. Her story is an example of the almost miraculous healing power of support and community. Lakeydra’s journey shows that even in the darkest moments, there is still a dawn.

Links

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2. KeyFit

3. The Pink Berets

4. The Turning Point 

5. Wounds to Wisdom: Healing Through Veteran and First Responder Narratives

6. Boulder Crest 

7. 1 in 6

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Episode Trigger Warning Index

This episode contains references to the following topics. Please use this guide to skip if needed:

• 01:18 - 02:29 Alcohol abuse and toxic drinking culture 

• 02:32 - 02:50 MST and military inaction 

• 02:54 - 04:10 Peer pressure, bullying, isolation 

• 04:23 - 05:39 Sexual assault, betrayal, victim blaming 

• 05:42 - 06:18 Further assault, deepening trauma 

• 06:25 - 07:23 Depression, reluctance to disclose 

• 07:44 - 08:18 Human trafficking, leadership complicity 

• 08:24 - 10:19 "Juicy Girls," survivor guilt 

• 11:02 - 14:10 Sister’s death, harassment, self-harm, suicidal thoughts 

• 17:34 - 18:39 Supporting another MST victim, starting advocacy 

• 19:31 - 20:34 Survivor silencing, victim blaming 

• 26:08 - 26:43 Transition out of service, overdose mention, ongoing healing

Takeaways from Part 2

• Military culture and peer pressure has lasting psychological effects.

• Alcohol abuse normalization creates and insulates unsafe environments, especially for those unprepared or influenced by previous traumas..

• MST survivors face systemic silencing and deep betrayal.

• Personal grief and loss amplify the mental health crisis among service members.

• Human trafficking within the military requires urgent investigation and accountability.

• Advocacy, peer support, and community are critical tools for healing.

• Institutional reform and trauma-informed care are essential for true change.

Reflection Journal Prompt

Has someone unexpected shown up in your life when you needed them the most?

Spend a few minutes after listening to reflect or journal. What did you feel during this episode? What are you still thinking about? What systems need to change — and what part could you play in that change?

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You are not alone. We believe you. You matter.  

Next week, May 13, 2025, we speak with Gender Violence Institute founder, Chuck Derry, who offers insight into why MST has endured and exactly how to stop it.

Why One Assault is Still Too Many

April marks the beginning of Sexual Assault Awareness Month (SAAM), a time dedicated to raising awareness about sexual violence and its impact on individuals and communities. In recognition of this significant month, it is essential to shed light on the prevalence of military sexual trauma (MST) and its profound implications for survivors.

Understanding Military Sexual Trauma (MST): A Unique Challenge

Military Sexual Trauma (MST) is a pervasive issue that affects individuals serving in the military and their surrounding communities, regardless of gender, age, rank, or race. It encompasses a range of sexual violations, including sexual harassment, assault, and rape, perpetrated by fellow service members or superiors, and it can also happen to dependents. The prevalence of MST continuing rise, even after many publicized events after high-profile deaths and an unprecedented change to the UCMJ highlights the urgent need for increased awareness, prevention, and support for survivors within the military community.

As we observe Sexual Assault Awareness Month, it is crucial to recognize the unique challenges faced by survivors of MST. The hierarchical structure and male-dominated culture of the military can exacerbate feelings of powerlessness and isolation for survivors, making it difficult for them to come forward and seek help. Additionally, the stigma surrounding mental health and sexual assault within the military can further deter survivors from speaking out and accessing support services, especially if the trauma happens to a male.

In light of these challenges, raising awareness about MST is paramount in fostering a culture of accountability, support, and prevention within the military. By amplifying the voices of survivors, advocating for policy changes, and promoting education and training on sexual violence prevention, we can work towards creating safer and more inclusive environments for all service members. Here at Silenced Voices, we advocate for a cultural change in our military, so that those in need can get the help they need without fear of ridicule, being ostracized, or even further harmed.

Commemorating Sexual Assault Awareness Month: Free E-book Release

To commemorate Sexual Assault Awareness Month and honor the resilience of MST survivors, we are pleased to announce the release of a new free e-book, which is one of a three part series. This e-book offers valuable insights, resources, and strategies for survivors navigating the complexities of MST and seeking healing and empowerment. Not only is this e-book a resource for those unfamiliar with MST and would like to learn more, it also showcases strength and courage of survivors trying to heal while underscoring the importance of supporting and advocating for their rights.

The Symbolism of the Teal Ribbon: Reflecting the Year-Round Struggle

The teal ribbon has become a symbol of awareness and support for survivors of sexual assault. It serves as a reminder that sexual assault remains a problem year-round until it is eradicated.

That is why Silenced Voices | Stories of MST uses teal in its logo and most of its products—to reflect the ongoing struggle and to stand in solidarity with survivors. It is also a nod to Rosie the Riveter, the women that stepped up to work in factories and more during WW2, as part of their patriotic duty. We could think of nothing more patriotic than advocating the safety and mental health of our service members and their communities.

Announcing Silenced Voices | Stories of MST: Premiering April 2nd

Again, we are excited to announce the premiere of Silenced Voices | Stories of MST’s second season on April 2, 2024. We are introducing video podcasts to help expand awareness and bring in more support. Please subscribe to our YouTube channel to see each episode and also learn about recent headlines concerning Military Sexual Trauma. Our first guest, UN Ambassador Eileen Dong, will share her powerful story of survival and resilience, offering inspiration, hope, and more resources to survivors worldwide.

The Symbolism of the Teal Ribbon: Reflecting the Year-Round Struggle

Next week, as we begin the month of awareness and advocacy during Sexual Assault Awareness Month, stand in solidarity with survivors of MST and reaffirm our commitment to creating a military and a world free from sexual violence. Together, we can break the silence, challenge the stigma, and build a future where all individuals are treated with dignity, respect, and equality.

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Survivor Eileen Dong Takes on Human Trafficking

As we eagerly prepare for the debut of Season 2 of our podcast on April 2, 2024, we're thrilled to introduce you to our first guest, UN Ambassador Eileen Dong. In anticipation of this insightful conversation, we're shaking things up by not only bringing you our usual audio format but also introducing video podcasts on YouTube. It's an exciting time as we expand our reach and dive deeper into crucial topics.

So, let's take a moment to get acquainted with our remarkable guest and the important discussion ahead.

UN Ambassador Eileen Dong

Founder and Executive Director
Hope Pyx Global

Recipient of the Presidential Lifetime Achievement Award

Learn more

In our conversation, Eileen shares her journey, shedding light on the harrowing realities of human trafficking and its intersection with military sexual trauma (MST). It's a conversation that challenges misconceptions and emphasizes the urgent need for action and support.

Her story is one of courage, resilience, and unwavering commitment to making the world a better place. She works tireless in advocacy against human trafficking and gender-based violence serves as a symbol of hope for survivors everywhere. During the interview, we're reminded of the importance of listening, supporting, and taking action to create a safer, more compassionate world for all.

Human trafficking is a global issue, far more prevalent and insidious than many realize. Eileen highlights the misconceptions surrounding trafficking, emphasizing that it can happen to anyone, regardless of their background or location. Through her work, she aims to debunk myths and raise awareness about the true scale of this crisis.

Finding Passion and Purpose

Eileen's journey to becoming an advocate against human trafficking is deeply personal. It stems from her own experiences as a survivor of polyvictimization and her unwavering commitment to preventing others from enduring similar horrors. Her passion and purpose drive every action, inspiring others to join the fight. Survivors of human trafficking often grapple with long-term effects that extend far beyond their immediate ordeal. Eileen emphasizes the importance of support systems and empathy in helping survivors heal and rebuild their lives.

Recognizing the signs of trafficking and offering support can be life-changing. Eileen provides valuable insights into how individuals can identify potential victims and take action to intervene and offer assistance.

Cultural sensitivity and ending victim blaming are essential components of addressing human trafficking effectively. Eileen emphasizes the need for empathy and understanding, urging society to see trafficked individuals as human beings deserving of dignity and respect.

Eileen’s Upcoming Book and Projects

Eileen's dedication to her cause knows no bounds. She shares details about her upcoming projects, including a book targeting law enforcement and a survivor-centered guide. Her relentless pursuit of justice and support for survivors is truly inspiring.

Eileen's upcoming book promises to be a valuable resource for survivors, law enforcement, and community members alike. It provides a comprehensive guide to understanding and combating human trafficking, offering practical insights and technical information.

Let's continue the conversation on April 2, and take meaningful action to support survivors and end human trafficking once and for all. Join us in listening to and thanking Eileen Dong for her tireless efforts and for being a voice for the voiceless. Together, we can build a future free from exploitation and violence.

Resources

• National Human Trafficking Hotline: 888-373-7888

• National Sexual Assault Hotline: 800-656-Hope

• National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233

Stay connected with Eileen Dong

Website: Eileen Dong

Book: Thank Your Predator: A Guide to Trauma Recovery from Abuse

International Conference on Abuse: Hope Pyx Global

For upcoming events and resources: Hope Pyx Global

To make a tax-deductible donation: Hope Pyx Global

International Survivors Network: Facebook Group

The Ms Texas Show: YouTube

Social Media: LinkedIn - Eileen Dong, LinkedIn - Hope Pyx Global